Skeptics vs Cynics

        I was asked not too long ago "Why do I think making a change is so Easy?" I said because, it is Whatever you say it is, if you say its Hard then its Hard, if you say its Easy then its Easy.. The person looked at me like "Yeah,Right!" Lol, I get that a lot these days.. I went on to explain that I believe its Easy because you have a Guarantee. The Guarantee is whatever I'm asking you to try, if it doesn't work for you, I Guarantee whatever you were doing before WILL be there waiting for you if you want to go back! LoL.. So if i'm asking you to focus on finding your Joy and you don't like it, MISERY will be waiting for your Return! That softens there position a little BUT most of us need more convincing, we are so use to the Limiting Beliefs we carry that to accept that we are Powerful Creators is beyond our Perception.

        So being the Virgo I am I took it Further, I wanted to know why most of us believe what we do. The old me would have dismissed the person and walked away in frustration. But I realize something now..

       SKEPTICS and CYNICS!!.. A Skeptic is someone who is Reluctant to believe.. A Cynic is someone who Refuses to believe.. A Skeptic once believed but was Disappointed. A Cynic once believed but was Hurt,Betrayed and Traumatized! However inside of All Skeptics and Most Cynics is a Deep Ache to BELIEVE Again but to do so Without the Fear of being Disappointed,Hurt,Betrayed or Traumatized Again.. This Realization Blew me away.. People can be reached but you have to be willing to get to the Root of why they don't believe, what was that incident that caused someone to become that way.. For me when I was in this space I could trace it back to my fathers passing and his business partners betrayal of our family..

      His death was so Traumatizing, the Pain was so deep, It caused a deep sense of Abandonment that I vowed to never want to feel again. On top of that his business partner stole the business from my mother, So my Trust of People was ruined at the same time. I became Cynical and Skeptical..Looking back I see how choices I made, feelings I felt were tied to these beliefs that I carried.. That's why I stick to Change your Thoughts(Beliefs) , Change your Life! A Belief is only A Thought I keep Thinking!!

Where can you look into your Past Experiences and find what keeps you from Making Lasting Change.. What Beliefs are you carrying that Limit your Progression.. Think about it, I Promise you it's Worth it to Figure it out, So we can all Do what we came here to do which is To Follow Our Joy!!..

If you need assistance don't hesitate to reach out.. LifeStrategyMeetup@gmail.com

Brooklyn Mclinn

What Good is a Relationship if it's Built on an Unstable Foundation??

What Good is a RELATIONSHIP if it's Built on an Unstable FOUNDATION??


FOUNDATION - The Basis or Groundwork of Anything. The Natural or Prepared ground or base on which some Structure rests.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. As someone who Desires to be in a Healthy Relationship where my partner and I decide our own Boundaries, Rules, Freedoms etc.. and Not What Society has dictated what our Relationship should be.

That being said, What does one base their Foundation on?? Morality?, Religion?, Like Interests?.. I know for me once you get past Physical Attraction which I will not deny is Very Important.  COMMUNICATION is Numero Uno on the list!!

COMMUNICATION - The Imparting or Interchange of Thoughts, Opinions,  or Information by Speech, Writing, Physical Expression or Signs.

I've taken a lot of time to understand Communication as a Whole and My "This is the way I Communicate" vs. "This is the way I want to Communicate" and I noticed in the beginning stages of this Journey my Communication was not very Effective to say the least. I would not address uncomfortable issues directly, I would let them fester until ultimately they erupted.  I would get Defensive if I felt like I was being Judged or Attacked. I would try to One up the person just to be Right. My Body Language was closed off. I wanted people to understand my thoughts even though I didn't understand them myself. I wanted a Mind Reader in essence, lol. You name it I did it.

Once I assessed where I was and Accepted it, took Responsibility for it, Forgave myself for the Hurt I caused with my Communication and Forgave others for the Perceived Hurt that I believed their Communication caused me. I asked myself "What kind if Communicator do I want to be?" I want to be Open, Honest, Vulnerable, Dependable, Understanding, Interested as opposed to Interesting, A Listener,  A Speaker from the Heart.. The list went on and on!!

The books that helped me the most are "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz,  "Aspire" by Kevin Hall,  "Just Listen" by Mark Goulston and "The definitive book of Body Language" by Barbara Pease.

Then as we all know its the application of the information that is key. "Knowing is not enough, we must Apply. Willing is Not Enough we Must Do" BRUCE LEE.

The trial and error,  The response from those I spoke to and How Good it made me Feel to have fulfilling conversations where both Parties "Feel-Felt".

Now I Understand that not everyone will Communicate the same way, we all have different experiences both physical, emotional and environmental.  That being said there is a match for everyone of us, not the Perfect person but the Perfect person for us!

I don't believe you should alter or modify your behavior to appease your partner unless it is Truly something you desire for Yourself! At this point in my life I'm not willing to start a Relationship in a shaky Foundation and then try to Fix it later! Been there done that, lol.. Please don't Confuse Foundation with House on top of it either. It could be a Shack sitting on a Solid Foundation as opposed to a Mansion built on Quicksand.

With all that being said it is not a Judgement of another if you decide you prefer something different than what they offer. Just be Open and Honest about it Speaking with Love. Time waits for no one and Wasted Time is an even Bitter pill to swallow.

So I Encourage you to Figure out what FOUNDATION you will build your Relationship on. It's Well Worth the Time to Find out!

As Always, ME-WE!!

Brookyn Mclinn

LifeStrategyMeetup@gmail.com

On Mother's Day!!

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!

LoL, can't say it enough times.

I thought today would be a great day to write and express some thoughts that have resonated with me, since my trip to Egypt.

Most of you don't know the reason why I went to Egypt to begin with. I went to Mystery School to study Egyptian Mysticism for 2 weeks. It was an amazing experience! Overwhelmingly Emotional! There aren't enough descriptive words to truly capture the feeling of being there. The information that was gathered is Life changing. All that being said, I wanted to share something that I learned and am embracing.

To the Women of the World YOU ARE THE  MOST POWERFUL BEINGS ON THE PLANET!
And I pledge to Embrace and Express this Idea for the rest of my days on this Earth.

Some might be thinking what exactly does this mean??

My time in Egypt explained to me the proper perspective to have to ensure Harmony in the World. I understand now that the way to Christ Consciousness is through the HEART. And I'm not speaking in terms of Religion, lets put that aside for now and just consider the Idea. Women instinctively think from their Heart, Men instinctively think with our Brains. Here's what's interesting, We know where our Brain is and we know where our Heart is but did you know your Mind is in your Heart. It's where your Emotion is! Emotion is Energy in Motion. When you visit the temples in Egypt and witness the images on the temple walls you constantly see the Woman standing behind their man. In western society it is explained that the woman's place is behind the man, submissive to her man.

I beg to differ the Woman is strategically placed behind the man so she can cover him!. Yes he sits on the throne with his woman behind him but think about the image. He can see what he can see and she can see what he can see AND what she can see! That's key she is there to cover and support and have his back! Not to be beneath him, not to be submissive to him. Now this idea may be familiar to some but lets take it a step further. What if Men consulted with Woman when it came to government decisions? What if men learned to think from their Hearts? How would the world be different?

I'm not looking to diminish the role of the man, we do what we do, for security,financially,protection of our families. What I'm looking to do is uplift the Woman and put her back in her proper place which is in a position of Authority to cover and protect us men as we go out and do the things that nature calls us to do.

I'm not sure if I'm making total sense but it just feels right to me to express this. I'm making a concerted effort to think from my Heart and place Women back in their proper place. I love you all, Unconditionally!!

Once again - HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!

Brooklyn Mclinn

FORGIVENESS

Good Morning!!

Fresh off my trip to Egypt and still adjusting to the time zone here at home, I've been wide awake since about 230am, LoL..

So I decided to write..

Anyways was watching a video about a wide range of topics and Forgiveness came up. I thought to myself what does it truly mean to Forgive?? I was having lunch with a friend yesterday and she mentioned something her father did that one could definitely justify destroyed her family as she knew it. Subsequently her relationship with her pops has dramatically changed ever since. She spoke about how many years went by without them speaking all together and how recently she began to soften her heart toward her dad in hopes of re-birthing the relationship. But that it was such a struggle to release and Forgive what he did.. I commended her on her Honesty about how she felt and even making an attempt at working it out with her father. I stressed the importance of a girls first love being her daddy an idea she totally embraced. That being said after we finished our meal and went our separate ways I began to ponder in depth Forgiveness..

First off We ALL Need to know that Forgiveness is POWER!! - Forgiveness is the Single best gift one could give to oneself!. Forgiveness literally means to "Give Forth"

I use to think Forgiveness was something I did for the person or situation that "Wronged me" To free them of the guilt,shame or grief they may be feeling from the act.

Through my studies and life experiences I realized the act of Forgiving is really for me. Having a better understanding of universal law of Consequence or "What goes around comes around" I realized whatever act that I am perceiving had to originally come from me. This energy is being returned to me and the situation or person is acting as a mirror revealing to me a lesson that I can learn from because as "Like attracts like" if I am able to find the root/seed inside of me and truly remove it or "Give it Forth" then the energy will no longer come back to me because it is no longer in me.

So then the question becomes "What is it in me, that attracted this energy, this act or this person to me??"

If I am accusing someone of lying,cheating,stealing, lacking integrity, being abusive etc.. By Law it has to be in me first, there is some energy in me that gives that off or I wouldn't perceive it as such. This is where Honesty with oneself would come in handy. Without judging or justifying the feeling, I would ask myself if I have committed any of these things in my dealings with people or situations and the answer would be a Resounding YES! I have lied to keep from accepting responsibility, to keep from hurting someones feelings, to make myself(ego) seem larger than I may have been at the time. I have cheated in games to win, to have more than someone else, I have stolen when I thought something wasn't fair or when I thought I didn't have enough. I have been verbally abusive to people and situations, I have abused my body, my mind and spirit at times.. So if I'm finding in myself the things that I'm claiming someone did to me then its time to take a step back and Understand why I did them and think for some time that it very well may be the same reason that the person or situation did it to me!

Once again its not to JUSTIFY the BEHAVIOR its to Understand to Release the that seed of Energy from ME that attracted it in the first place.

Now One might think of a child being taken advantaged of and wonder how did they attract that to themselves. I asked the same question and what came back continuously is a child isn't fully capable until a certain age and awareness to understand energy attraction, cause and effect etc.. but the adults around them, the environment these kids our in is definitely responsible for the Energy being created. An abusive household that a child may be in will directly have an effect on the development of that child.

And some of us who may have been affected by this still can gain from using Forgiveness once again to free ourselves of any binding Energy that may be getting in the way of Healthier lifestyles that we may desire but are unaware that these past transgressions may be causing resistance.

To bring it back full circle. Forgiveness to me is a muscle that can be developed. I've learned to look at the results of whats in front of me as lessons that can be appreciated as opposed to condemned for not being what I ultimately desire. Take the info process it and it "Give it Forth or Forgive it" so that by the law of Correspondence or "Cause and Effect" it will not be allowed to return.. And if it does don't beat yourself up keep digging and releasing and ultimately it will cease to return;-)

"Knowing your Own Darkness is the Best method for dealing with the Darkness of other People" Carl Gustav Jung"

Brooklyn Mclinn

A Belief is Only A Thought I keep Thinking!

Interesting concept. Most of us are RULED by OUR BELIEFS! If a belief is only a thought I keep thinking, then If I change my thoughts, I change my beliefs and then my results change!


You put the rat in the maze. Down the first tunnel he goes, and there’s no food. The rat’s hungry, so he goes to the second tunnel; no cheese. Third tunnel; no cheese. In the fourth tunnel, he finally finds the cheese.  Give the rat some time to get hungry and motivated again, and then put it back at the beginning of the maze with food again at the end of the fourth tunnel. The pattern repeats: First tunnel, second tunnel, third tunnel, no cheese. Finally the rat gets to the fourth tunnel and finds the cheese. Pretty soon, you get a smart rat. When you put him at the beginning of the maze, he heads straight to the fourth tunnel and finds the cheese right away.

Now you test your theory by moving the cheese to exit number 2 and see how long it takes for the rat to unlearn the old pattern and learn a new one. You put the rat at the beginning of the maze. Right down the fourth tunnel go goes. No exit, no food. He retraces his steps, confused.

Back and forth the rat goes, and you record how many times he goes back and forth. Soon the rat gets really hungry and gives up going down the fourth tunnel. He goes down the first tunnel, then the second tunnel, and finds the cheese. If you keep putting the cheese at the second tunnel, the rat will begin consistently heading down the second tunnel.

The man finishes the psychology book, puts it back on the shelf, and thinks, “There’s a big difference between rats and human beings. From what I’ve read so far, if rats get hungry, they will eventually go down a different tunnel. But human beings will go down the same tunnel over and over again, thinking that the cheese will eventually be there. If it was there once, certainly it will be there again.”

Could it be true that rats are smarter than human beings?

Some people will take a chair and sit at the end of the fourth tunnel, waiting. They think, “I’ll just hang out – I’m sure the cheese will be here soon.” They think things like: “It was here in the family I grew up in, so it’s got to be here.” Or: “It was here in my last relationship, so I’m sure it will be here.” Or: “It makes sense that it should be here, so I’ll just wait.”

All rats know is they are hungry and they haven’t yet found the cheese. On the other hand, human beings could eat their beliefs for decades.

If you’ve been sitting around on the same beliefs, thinking that eventually life will change.  Ask yourself: What would the rat do?

Where in our lives have we held on to a Belief expecting a different result?? It's nothing to be ashamed about. At any point you can DECIDE to DO Something Different.

Thoughts become Things. Beliefs are nothing more than Thought I continue to Think. CHANGE MY THOUGHTS CHANGE MY LIFE!

Brooklyn

Some thoughts I woke up with..

Good Morning!

I Love this time of morning because it is so quiet and my thoughts are really clear at this time. Before the day revs up and we become susceptible to getting knock out of alignment.

I just wanted to share a couple things on some topics that I have had to deal with in my life and continue to develop a muscle to better handle it as it comes in the future.

FEAR - by definition means something that causes dread, apprehension, concern or anxiety.
A popular one is False Evidence Appearing Real..
I have come to the conclusion that FEAR is just a lack of information. Because once you have the information what's to fear??. Take fire for example, when you don't understand fire it can be scary, it can burn and do deadly harm. But once you have an understanding and knowledge of fire and learn to respect its properties, you can use fire to your benefit. Fire can keep you warm, cook food, be used as a weapon for protection. Empower yourself with Information. But then you might ask, "The Information/Truth/Knowledge may be PAINFUL" Then I would say learn to LOVE the TRUTH. Learn to Love the process of "Not Knowing to Knowing" and all the benefits that come with it. Consider this.. True Possibility Lies in the UNKNOWN! its not in what you DO Know, it is in What you DON'T KNOW!.

HELP - Why is this such a powerful word?. What does it mean to ask for Help?. By definition HELP means to make it easier for someone to do something by offering aid/assistance.
I remember when I finally gave myself permission to ask for HELP. To stop feeling like I had to know it all on my own. My GROWTH grew exponentially! Especially for men, asking for HELP is such a Taboo in this society. When the truth is NO ONE makes it on their own!
There are no new problems.Stop feeling like your problems are unique to you. Civilization has been here for thousands of years. People have been having problems since the beginning of time. Someone has had your problem before and someone has written a book, created a program, an audio CD, a video about a potential solution. Seek it Out, Seek the Truth Out. Don't let FEAR of asking for HELP stop your GROWTH anymore!

BODY LANGUAGE - just wanting to make sure that what we're desiring is being communicated through our bodies. A lot of times what I intended internally wasn't being communicated externally through my Body Language. It's necessary for effective communication for those 2 things to be in sync to accomplish what we Want, Need and Desire. Remember 60-70% of all communication is non-verbal so it is something to look at and take note of.

Have a Great Day All!!

Brooklyn

Daily Motivation..

A Great way to start the day of with a Deliberate Intention.. Intend for your day to turn out the way you want it. Regain CONTROL over your Thoughts!! You have that Power!

I make it a practice to watch something, read something, write something EVERY MORNING to set the Intention for my day.. Put yourself FIRST! If that means waking up 15-20 minutes earlier or cutting short that social outing to give yourself time before you go to bed to do something for yourself. It is not something you should do, it is something you "MUST" do, it needs to be that important to you.. I promise it will be worth it and the results if you stick with it will gain momentum!!


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