The Man Who Didn't Believe In Love..

     I want to tell you a very old story about the man who didn't believe in Love. This was an ordinary person like you and me, but what made this man special was his way of thinking. He Thought LOVE DIDN'T EXIST. Of Course, he had a lot of experience trying to find Love, and he had observed the people around him. Much of his life had been spent searching for Love, only to find it didn't Exist.
     Wherever this man went, he used to tell people Love is Nothing but an invention of the poets, an invention of religion to manipulate the weak mind of humans, to have control over humans, to make them believe. He said that Love is not real, and that's why no human could ever find Love even though he might look for it.
     This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing. He read a lot of books, he went to the best universities, and he became a respected scholar. He could stand in any public place, in front of any kind of people, and his logic was very strong. What he said was Love is just like a drug; it makes you very high, but it creates a strong need. You can become highly addicted to Love, but what happens when you don't receive your daily doses of love? Just like a drug, you must have your everyday doses.
     He used to say that most relationships between Lovers are just like a relationship between a drug addict and a drug dealer. The one who has the biggest need is like the drug addict; the one who has a little need is like the provider. The one who has the little need is the one who controls the whole relationship. You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is the one who loves the most and the other who doesn't love, who only takes advantage of the one who gives his or her heart. You can see why they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the drug dealer and the drug addict.
     The drug addict, the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that he or she will not be able to get the next dosage of Love, or the drug. The drug addict thinks, "What am I going to do if he/she leaves me?" That fear makes the drug addict very possessive. "That's Mine!" The addict becomes jealous and demanding, because the fear of not having the next dosage. The drug dealer can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no doses at all. The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders and will do whatever he/she can to avoid being Abandoned.
     The man went on explaining to everyone why Love doesn't exist. "What humans call 'Love' is nothing but a Fear based relationship based on Control. Where is the Respect? Where is the Love they Claim to Have? There is No Love. Young Couples, in front of the representation of GOD, in front of their family and friends, make a lot of promises to each other: to live together forever, to love and respect each other, to be there for each other, through the good times and bad times. They promise to love and honor each other, and make promises and more promises. But after the marriage, one week later, a month later, a few months later, you can see that none of these promises are kept.
     "What you find is a War of Control to see who will manipulate whom. Who will be the drug dealer, and who will have the Addiction? You find that a few months later, the respect they swear to have for each other is gone. You can see the resentment, the emotional poison, how they hurt each other, little by little, and it grows and grows, until they don't know when the Love stops. They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgments of others, and also afraid of their own judgments and opinions. But Where is the Love?"
     He used to claim that he saw many old couples that had lived together 30, 40, 50 years, and they were so proud to have lived together all those years. But when they talked about their relationship what they said was, "We survived the matrimony." That means one of them surrendered to the other; at a certain time, he/she gave up and decided to endure the suffering. The one with the strongest will and less need, Won the War, but where is that Flame they Call Love? They treat each other like a possession: "She is Mine. He is Mine."
     The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed Love doesn't exist, and he told others, "I have done all that Already. I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of Love." His arguments were quite logical, and he convinced many people by all his words. LOVE DOESN'T EXIST.
     Then one day this man was walking in the park, and there on the bench was a beautiful lady who was crying. when he saw her crying, he felt curiosity. Sitting beside her, he asked if he could help her. He asked why was she crying. you can imagine his surprise when she told him she was crying because Love doesn't Exist. He said, "This is amazing, a woman who believes that Love doesn't exist!" Of course, he wanted to know more about her.
     "Why do you say Love doesn't exist?" he asked. "Well it's a long story," she replied. "I married when I was very young, with all the love, all these illusions, full of hope that I would share my life with this man. We swore to each other our loyalty, respect, and honor, and we created a family. But soon everything changed. i was the devoted wife who took care of the children and the home. My husband continued to develop his career, and his success and image outside of home was more important to him than our family. He lost respect for me, and I lost respect for him. We hurt each other, and at a certain point i discovered that I didn't love him and he didn't love me either.
     "But the children needed a father, and that was my excuse to stay and to do whatever I could to support him. Now the children are grown and they have left. I no longer have any excuse to stay with him. There's no respect, there's no kindness. I know that even if I find someone else, it's going to be the same, because Love doesn't Exist. There is no sense to look around for something that doesn't Exist. That is why I'm crying."
     Understanding her very well, he embraced her and said, "You are right; Love doesn't exist. We look for Love, We open our Heart and we become Vulnerable, just to find selfishness. That hurts us even if we don't think we will be hurt. It doesn't matter how many relationships we have; the same thing happens again and again. Why even search for Love any longer?"
     They were so much alike, and they became the best friends ever. It was a wonderful relationship. They respected each other, and they never put each other down. with every step they took together, they were happy. There was no jealousy or envy, there was no control, there was no possessiveness. The relationship kept growing and growing. They Loved to be together, because when they were together they had a lot of fun. When they were not together they missed each other.
     One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. He was thinking, "Hmm, maybe what I feel for her is Love. But this is so different from what I have felt before. It's not what the poets say it is, it's not what religion says it is, because I am not Responsible for her. I don't take anything from her; I don't have the need for her to take care of me; I don't need to blame her for my difficulties or to take my dramas to her. We have the best time together; we enjoy each other. I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels. She doesn't embarrass me; she doesn't bother me at all. I don't feel jealous when she's with other people; I don't feel envy when she is successful. Perhaps LOVE DOES EXIST, but it's not what everyone thinks Love is."
     He could hardly wait to go back home and talk to her to let her know about his weird idea. As soon as he started talking, she said, "I know exactly what you are talking about. I had that same idea long ago, but I didn't want to share it with you because I know you don't believe in Love. Perhaps Love does exist, but it isn't what we thought it was." They decided to become Lovers and to Live together, and it was amazing that things didn't change. They still respected each other, they were still supportive of each other, and the Love grew more and more. Even the simplest things made their hearts sing with Love because they were so Happy.
     The man's Heart was so full with all the Love he felt that one night a great miracle happened. He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his Love was so big that the star started coming down from the Sky and soon that Star was in his hands. Then a second Miracle happened, and his Soul Merged with that Star. He was intensely Happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that Star in her hands to Prove his Love to her. As soon as he put the Star in her hands, she felt a moment of Doubt. This Love was Overwhelming, and in that Moment, The Star fell from her hands and Broke into a Million little Pieces.
     Now there is an Old man walking around the world swearing that Love doesn't Exist. And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding a tear for a paradise that once she had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, she let it go. This is the story about the man who didn't Believe in Love.
     Who made the Mistake? Do you want to guess what went Wrong? the mistake was on the Man's part in thinking he could give the Woman his Happiness.. The Star was his Happiness, and his mistake was to put his Happiness in her Hands. Happiness never comes from Outside of us. He was Happy because of the Love Coming out of Him; She was happy because of the Love coming out of her. But as soon as He made her Responsible for his Happiness, She broke the Star because she could not be Responsible for his Happiness.
     No matter how much the Woman Loved him, She could never make him Happy because she could never know what he had in his Mind. She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his Dreams.
     If you take your Happiness and put it in someone's hands, sooner or later, she is going to break it. If you give your Happiness to someone else, she can take it away. Then if Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your Love, you are Responsible for your Happiness. We can never make anyone responsible for our own Happiness, but when we go to the church to get married, the first thing we do is exchange rings. We put our Star in each other's hands, expecting that she is going to make you Happy, and you are going to make her Happy. It doesn't matter how much you Love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.
    That is the mistake most of us make right from the beginning.  We base our Happiness on our Partner, and it doesn't work out that way. We make All those Promises that we cannot Keep, and We Set ourselves up for Failure!!..

Don Miguel Ruiz..

Sam Sarpong..

Sam Sarpong​ My Heart is SOOOOOO Heavy right now.. 30 years of Friendship gone!! Just know that I Love You and I will miss you!! This one is gonna Hurt for awhile and I'm going to Let it and Embrace the Pain.. We all need Reminders of how Fragile Life is. And after I'm done Mourning, I will continue to DEDICATE MY LIFE to trying to Inspire, Inform, Motivate and Transform Lives, so that we can Know that Life is Easier than We've been Led to Believe. I will keep saying it till i'm Dead, BY JUST BEING ALIVE you Are serving Your Purpose to GOD. Our Purpose is not tied up in our accomplishments. Our Purpose is to wake up everyday and Give Thanks, To connect with each other, to observe Sunsets, To Laugh, and also To Cry.. So My Brother, My Friend Thank You for 30 years of Enjoyment, We've never Cried Together but I Will Cry Now in Your Honor and Your Memory..  Gone but Never Ever Forgotten!!

OSHO ZEN TAROT CARDS

OSHO ZEN TAROT CARDS..

Happy Sunday!!

I was recently given a set of Tarot Cards as a gift, as I recently went to a birthday party and there was a Tarot reader there giving 7 minute readings. I, open to trying new things decided to do it. I was a little nervous at 1st, thinking I don't want to hear any bad news. But I quickly caught myself and that thought and asked myself, "If you don't want to hear any bad news then what do you want?" I answered, "I just want to have a new experience and be open to whatever information is provided, as I know in my spirit nothing(news) is neither good or bad until we make it so. To be more specific that thought is related directly to a Universal Law of Relativity.. To Learn more about the Seven basic Universal Laws click here.. http://bit.ly/ULAWS These are Free downloads for you for stopping by my page!!

Anyways.. I sat with the Tarot reader and began to answer her questions. She told me somethings that were related to me through the cards but only after I shared with her. Needless to say it was pretty uneventful and I went back to the party to share what happened. What was funny was everyone that had got a reading said she said similar things to them as well!! We all had a good laugh but my friend I was with said the cards can be pretty accurate but you should learn to do it for yourself.

So Now I have a set of OSHO ZEN TAROT CARDS, Lol..

The cards come with an instruction book and some good explanations of the different styles of spreading the cards out and very informative explanations of what each individual card means. Basically as you are shuffling the cards you need to focus on whatever the subject, issue, challenge, topic that you are dealing with. Spread the cards out and use a Lay-Out suggested. Select the cards in the proper order and begin to turn them as suggested in the Lay-Out..

I won't go into detail about the topics I've asked about but the subject matter has been Career, Relationships etc..

One Card that I do want to mention that has come up a couple times is

 "The Outsider"

At first glance you see a picture of a small child standing outside of a Locked gate. To small to climb over, scared to be alone and by himself. He looks lost an unable, Helpless.. As I looked deeper into some feelings of Unworthiness came up, feeling like he doesn't belong inside, so he was locked out. He appears to be focused on the chains and looking through, when he could easily peer through the side of the gate where the chains aren't an obstruction. The colors of the rainbow are on the inside of the gate, where on the outside it appears to be dark and in the forest. 

So then I start to ask myself, where do I feel like this in relation to what I'm focused on in my life?

Where do I feel unworthy? Where do I feel locked out? Where do I feel Helpless? It became to be an honest and nonjudgmental assessment of myself.

But then when you look even closer to the picture and specifically at the lock, you notice that the lock isn't EVEN LOCKED!! In actuality the gate is OPEN it only has the appearance of being locked! There is actually nothing inside of the gate that is preventing this child from entering. He is keeping himself out by not just removing the open lock and entering inside and experiencing the Rainbow of Life!

I was blown away by this!! because it immediately brought me back to a quote I like..

"You are Confined only by the Wall You build for Yourself!!"

Any ad everything you can ever want is available to you if you just move toward it and Get out of Your Own Freaking Way!!

Now we can assess the reasons why this child either by his own doing or the programming of others doesn't enter the "Kingdom".. Maybe he was told by his parents, friends, society etc. He wasn't good enough and doesn't deserve whats on the inside of the gate. His plight is to remain locked out and helpless, feeling sorry for himself. Which we can see from the picture is so far from the truth. This is an individual search, you would need to be willing to ask yourself what is Holding you back from your Birthright!! Your Birthright of Happiness, Fulfillment, Joy, Pleasure.. It's available to ALL of us whenever we decide to Become it.

No longer play the the role of the Outsider!! The child that feels left out. Stop allowing Your Fears to paralyze you from seeing the gate is unlocked! The Rainbow is there for everyone to Experience..

The only thing that is Stopping you is YOU!!

Until next time.. Brooklyn Mclinn

And GOD Said "Let There Be Light and There Was Light!"

Jealousy and Envy!!

FALL FINISH "STRONG"

Good Morning Everyone!!

 I hope that you'll had a fantastic labor day weekend and an overall great summer.. I know I've had. Thanks again for all the bday wishes and in true virgo fashion I am going to answer them all!! Lmao..
I woke feeling refreshed and ready for the FALL FINISH!! We have 4 months left in 2015 and I want to Encourage you to Finish Strong!! Whatever you have accomplished is Great and whatever you have not accomplished so far this year You can do nothing about!! What you can do something about is RIGHT NOW.. Right now make a pledge to making the best out of these last 4 months. Don't wait till Jan. to start anew, We all can do that right now!!
Take some time today or this week to write down what you want to accomplish in these last few months and work a little bit on them everyday and you will be amazed how much if not all of it you get accomplished.
If you need any help with it or need an accountability partner do not hesitate to reach out to me.. As that is what I am here for!!
Remember Where you Start is not as Important as WHERE YOU  FINISH.. Zig Ziglar..

The Key to Success..